By Stephen Walton
...Recognizing the importance of communication is the first step in developing a positive family culture, the second is perpetually practicing strategies to improve it.
Here you'll find links to many good ideas to improve your family communication
We must first ask ourselves...
.....What is Communication?
The dictionary describes communication as a means to convey or share information or ideas between people, orally or written.
We all know it is far more complex than that. In fact understanding communication in the family context can be one of the most confusing and complicated aspects of parenting.
Many family therapists have disclosed that a typical
complaint of clients experiencing relationship issues is lack of
The absence of high-quality communication skills can lead to an unstable family environment.
misunderstandings and misinterpretation family culture can slowly
deteriorate leading to damaged, unrepairable family problems.
It is absolutely critical to understand that positive and effective communication is a cornerstone in the foundation of a happy and successful family culture.
So!… Just what is Positive and Effective Communication?
It's more than just Words
To thoroughly understand the importance of communication and its affect on your children, you must be aware that you are communicating at all times. Every single thing you "do" and "say" is a form of communication and believe me, your children are taking it all in, particularly when you "think they are not."
Your child's whole perspective on life, their self esteem and their character (good or bad) are initially built from the very messages they perceive from you as their parent.
You must consciously focus on "what" and "how" your message is being presented to ensure all your communication is of a positive nature
It is a fact that your attitude and emotions convey more about your message than your words. Your tone of voice, body language, posture and even your touch send their own distinct message.
While analyzing the importance of communication, a study done at the University of California at Santa Cruz concluded that;
...A staggering 93 percent of communication effectiveness is determined by nonverbal cue.
Think about that... A whopping 93 percent from nonverbal cues.
Further breakdown expressed the numbers as follows:
7 percent of the actual words used
38 percent by voice quality
55 percent by other nonverbal communication
These are extremely important numbers to consider when both interpreting and expressing the intent of a message.
Professor and management consultant Peter Drucker once stated that:
"The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn't said."
Strong Families are Built on
Positive and Effective Communication
Strong families support one another and openly share their feelings such as; fears, joys, and sorrows: they share their hopes and dreams with one another. They encourage and celebrate individual achievements and successes.
A key element of "positive parenting" is to ensure each member of your family regardless of age is heard, understood and most importantly given an opportunity to express their thoughts, feelings and concerns without contempt or criticism.
All that being said… What can you do to improve family communication?
Consciously Focus on
your Communication Skills?
...Our most precious relationships in life are those we create with our children. The years quickly pass and lost time can never be recovered. Each stage in your child's life is an immense opportunity to learn and practice your communication skills. Don't avoid this wonderful and important parenting responsibility; make a personal commitment to learn and apply positive communication.
I personally agree with the esteemed motivational speaker and author Brian Tracy when he asserts that communication is a skill you can learn. He maintains it's like riding a bicycle or typing. If you're willing to work at it, you can rapidly improve the quality of every part of your life.
Good parenting skills in communication are cultivated by exhibiting and modelling positive behaviour, improving listening skills through active listening and in the development of empathic listening skills.
Yes, it takes time, commitment and discipline, but with mindful effort and practice, good communication becomes a habit, leading to loving and harmonious family relationships.
I personally believe it is not an option to attempt to improve your communication skills... it is:
"A Parental Responsibility"
The following articles will shed more light on the importance of communication and suggest ways of improving family communication.
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