Uninvolved Parenting Style


By Stephen Walton © 2012


What It Is… and… What are its Negative Effects?

The Uninvolved Parenting style (often referred to as neglectful parenting) as the name implies, the parent is totally disengaged and emotionally uninvolved in their child's life. There is little if any expression of love and affection.

Developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind in her studies based on the dimensions of "Parental Responsiveness" and "Parental Demandingness" conclude that:

The uninvolved parenting style is low in parental responsiveness (the nurturing aspect of the child) and low in parental demandingness (control over the child).

Often these parents provide only the basic needs of food and shelter.

Opportunity for sports, recreation and ordinary pleasures in life are too often non existent.

Routinely these parents are too busy or self-involved to support their child in school functions, teach life skills and encourage socially acceptable behaviour.

The child is generally expected to fend for themselves and destined to enrol in.......

    "The School Of Hard Knocks".


Effects of the "Uninvolved Parenting Style"


All or perhaps a combination of these possible effects can emerge from this parenting style.


Development of a sense of unimportance to the parent

Become emotionally withdrawn from social situations

Develop a sense of loneliness

Show patterns of truancy in school

Patterns of delinquency during adolescence

Prone to develop fear, stress and anxiety disorders

Develop a low self-esteem

Lack self-control

High chance of addiction to drugs and alcohol

Often demonstrate defiance to authority figures such as, parents, teachers and other adults


Why a Parent Would Use This Approach

As sad as it is, there are many parents uninvolved in their children's lives.

Statistics show that region, cultural, education and socioeconomic status often play a role in this parenting style.

Some cases are hereditary, parents, themselves raised in a negative environment with no expression of love, guidance, support or positive communication are prone to modelling this parenting style.

Often you will see this style used unintentionally by materialistic parents so busy with their own lives, work or business, they just don't realize their lack of involvement in their child's life until it is too late.

Others, being immersed in their own negative lifestyle, often due to drug or alcohol addiction have little competence or desire to take responsibility for raising their children.


The "Positive Parenting Centre's" Perspective


Unfortunately in today's society there are far too many troubled and dysfunctional families and the reasons are plentiful.

We understand that unfortunate circumstances can foster temporary parental misguidance and empathy goes to those battling mental disorders or drug and alcohol addiction… however, parental responsibility must ultimately focus on the best interest of their child.

Parents too involved in work or business need to remind themselves how quickly the years pass, time is never recovered. It is important for parents to periodically prioritize their lives to stay focused on their family values.

Parents must be fully engaged in all aspects of their child's life.


It warrants repeating my statement from our home page:


    "Your children are a blessing, more precious and valuable than anything in this world and must be cherished, their innocence protected, and every opportunity for a positive and successful life afforded to them".




Your Own Parenting Style

If you have not yet read our condensed definitions of the other parenting styles, we strongly suggest you read them prior to attempting to define your own parenting style.


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